Take care of others, but First take care of You!
Perhaps you are that person, who constantly gives, and gives, but in the process easily ignores yourself.
Three examples, where the question is who has the sustainable model of giving, without being "drained" of yourself, are:
- A shepherd devotes himself to his flock and forgets himself.
- A captain of a boat brings everyone together to his destination.
- A king amasses his wealth and power before caring about his subjects.
The one who guesses that the King has the only sustainable model here is right, according to Buddhism. Indeed, you must first take care of your own well-being in order to serve others.
We say, take care of yourself first and then take care of others, because if you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of another.
Try these tips to practice generosity without suffering burnout or putting yourself in a situation where you feel completely exhausted:
1. 1ake care of yourself. If you sacrifice your own strength, you will have little joy or resources to share with others. That this is not always easy in practice is a fact. But if you constantly make yourself aware of this, it works well, both for yourself, and for those you care for with heart and soul. This is why the A of Consciousness or Attention is essential.
2. Screen carefully. Give to those who appreciate your generosity and ask if you need anything yourself. Practice asking especially, as this is not an easy task for most of us. And do so sincerely, even if it is not always easy in every situation. Authenticity, stemming from honesty, integrity creates trust. That's one reason why this second A is hugely important, if you want to be able to genuinely care for another person and give them the attention they need.
3. Set priorities. You may get more requests that you want to honor than you can handle. Decide what is most important to you, whether that is your immediate family or the poverty of the world. The A of Alignment from both your ratio, your heart and what you do is especially important to you energetically.
4. Ask for help. Giving is a two-way street. We empower each other by taking turns giving and offering support. Asking for help is not easy for those who prefer to give. Practice makes perfect here! The A of Adapt to change means that when it all starts to get a little too much for you, it's best to (practice) stepping over that threshold to ask for help for yourself.
5. Create value. How do you negotiate when you and the other party want the same thing? Creative thinking can uncover new options that satisfy both of you. Split the last piece of cake and serve it with cheese for two complete desserts.
This is how you grow as a Team and the output of a joint project becomes more valuable and often greater, both in quality and quantity.
That's the A of Act or Action.
To wrap this up:
By continuing to practice The 5 A's™ , on which "The VIE Method™" is based, as I have named my method I have developed, you will become stronger and stronger with the skills of self-coaching.
Whether in family, as an employee or as a manager.
If you implement them in the way you run a business, then eventually the output of your staff will grow, which of course will also positively affect the financial results.